How can Relationship Counselling help couples who fall out of love in Cambridge?

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How can Relationship Counselling help couples who fall out of love in Cambridge?
Human beings are social beings who need the company of other people. We want to both give and receive, especially in our more intimate relationships. We want to share our joys and sorrows, to laugh together, to do things together, to be held , caressed and cared for. So why do our relationships often go so wrong and we find ourselves feeling miserable and isolated?

Why do we need relationship counselling to restore our fulfilment from being with that special person? There are no simple answers to these questions.

Each relationship is different with different ideas about how we live together. A famous novelist once suggested that all happy families are alike but each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way! There are an infinite number of factors that play a role in the relationship chemistry. To understand what is backfiring and short -circuiting it is necessary to explore each case individually through relationship therapy. It involves enquiring into what is going on for each partner. What makes us tick? What limiting beliefs and unhelpful role models might we have inherited from our parents? It also involves asking what love and caring means for us. What are our expectations from our family life and from our partner specifically?

The place where we grew up and the place where we live now also play a role in impacting our relationships. If you are looking for counselling to help with your own difficulties it is important that the relationship counsellor understands the more knowledge about the place where you are living. For example, Cambridge is a place of high cultural variety, with many international pairs. Reconciling cultural differences may not always be easy. These differences can be exciting at the beginning ofa romance, but in the longer run may become a source of misunderstandings and irritation.

Sometimes both partners meet elsewhere and come to Cambridge for work. Sometimes one of the partners may be local and another has moved here from a different town or country. Cambridge is a place of hi- tech, science and University, with a lot of competition and pressure to perform. All these factors put additional strain on an individual as well as on a couple.

Children are usually also affected by the stress their parents are experiencing, so relationship counselling and couple counselling is not only about two persons, but concerns the wellbeing of the whole family.

One of the frequent issues I encounter in my relationship work in Cambridge is the situation when a woman finds her partner emotionally unavailable. He appears to always be busy on his computer and concerned more about his success at work than about spending time with the family. Emotional frustration is usually expressed in the form of accusations, which does not help, but only causes the man to withdraw even further into his cave. Sexual life grinds to a standstill and life together turns into a chore.

Is there a way to break the vicious circle of blaming, hurt and alienation? Is there a way to unlock the new resources and revive the sense of fun and intimacy? Relationship and couple counselling helps you to better understand yourself and your partner; understand how men and women experience and express themselves in a relationship. It is important to see how we can communicate ourselves, so that we are heard and have our needs met.

Although a lot can be achieved through improved communication with each other, it is equally important to be able to recognize when a relationship has run its course. In that case releasing the hurt, clearing resentment and building up your confidence can help you through the process of separation and prepare you for creating a new happy relationship in the future.